That Which Destroys Kings . . . Proverbs 31:3

Do not give your strength to women, Or your ways to that which destroys kings. Proverbs 31:3

Here is a wise mother's advice to her son - and it is all the more poignent because we know it is the advice of Bathsheba to her son Solomon. 

What is Bathsheba's advice?  She tells her son not to give his strength to women.  What does it mean to give one's strength to a woman - or in this case to women?  The word strength here means to have strength and influence.  It has the idea of someone who has a great deal of influence over you - over what you do - and over how you expend your strength. 

Bathsheba knew from her own sin that it was devastating when a king gives undue influence to women in his life.  David chose to give himself and his strength to pursue immorality with Bathsheba.  He chose then to give himself to a cover-up of that sin.  In the end, David gave himself over to a laundry list of sins including lust, adultery, lying, deception, murder, hypocrisy - and many more just because he decided to give women his strength and influence in what he did.  This led to disaster in his kingdom, in his family, and in the history of his life.  God's grace overcame all this as David repented and turned back to the Lord.  But oh, what a dark chapter of his life was written when he gave undue heed to women.

Now, before anyone thinks this is women-bashing, I want to make certain in what situations one is and is not to heed the influence of a woman.  In the case of godly mothers and wives - HEED THEM AND LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY!  God makes it clear that the influence of a godly mother is vital to a young man.  When God gives him a godly wife - it is a good thing the Lord has done.  Many a man has been greatly blessed by the influence of a godly wife and mother.  But that is not what Bathsheba is saying here.  And before anyone thinks this is a rant from a male chauvenist pig - remember - Solomon's MOM is the one giving this advice to him!

The kind of women Bathsheba warns against are the ones who lead a man into sin - or at least greatly encourage it.  She says to stay away from the "ways" that destroy kings.  What a loaded statement this is!  Think of all the men who were destroyed by their involvement with immoral women!  By the way - the kings chose to be immoral as well - because it takes two to become involved in consentual sexual relations.  If we need any examples of this, they abound in our world today.  In 2010, the governor of South Carolina was destroyed by his involvement with a South American mistress.  Tiger Woods reputation and fame will forever be marred by his involvement with prostitutes.  These situations destroy men - and the higher the man - the greater the potential for disaster. 

Oh, how we need to hear these words from Bathsheba - words of warning most likely tinged with shades of her own regret.  Too bad Solomon did not listen to his mother.  His latter years were spent in the midst of this ruin - as he sought many wives and many concubines.  Solomon probably thought he had it made sexually with somewhere around 1000 different women catering to his every whim and desire.  The problem is that he didn't have it made - he made a mess.  His immorality and unwise actions didn't just betray his mother - they betrayed all of Israel and more than anyone else - the Lord his God.  Because he did not heed the words of his wise mother - Israel was divided and eventually fell.  At the core of this fall was a disregard of God's warnings against sexual immorality.  Interesting isn't it - we can either be blessed by adhereing to godly wisdom - or we can crash on the rocks of those very warnings.  So tell me - which direction are you headed?