The Radical Take on the Ladies' Man - Proverbs 22:14

The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; He who is cursed of the LORD will fall into it. Proverbs 22:14

Here is a take in Proverbs that turns conventional wisdom on its ear.  It has to do with the adulteress - and with the man who seems to be having all the so-called success with the ladies.  Whereas the world wants us to think that this ladies man has it made - the Word of God here in Proverbs has a much different take on his status. 

The adulteress, as we've learned in previous verses (5:3 and 7:5) catches men with her mouth.  Her enticing words draws them in - and prevents them from seeing that they are not stepping into pure pleasure - but rather a trap.  Here, in keeping with the previous warnings, is another statement that her mouth is a deep pit.  Such pits where used for capturing animals and killing or making them slaves of the one who caught them.  These pits were usually covered with camouflage to make their presence unknown until the animal stepped into them.  By that time it was too late - they were either caught or dead.  The same is true of the adulteress.  She will hide her real intent with compliments and appeals to the ego of the fool she is trying to catch.  He, being a fool, does not see the danger in another man's wife giving him praise.  In the end, he falls for the deception and later falls into the trap.  This is not new to us - but the fact that now for at least the third time a warning is given about this should make us very cautious when a woman other than our wife begins giving us compliments and starts stroking our ego.

What I find shocking about this passage is the second statement made here.  "He who is cursed of Jehovah will fall there."  The reason that this is shocking is because we are told that one of the ways we can know that God has cursed someone - is that they are involved in sexual immorality - and even more so - that they are so involved in an adulterous affair.  The world shows us the quintisential ladies man - and then says to us that this man is blessed.  He has the ladies lining up for him.  We are told that he can have any woman he wants - and that this is a sign of being blessed.  The truth is much different - as it always is when it comes to the lies of the world and of Satan.  Contrary to this worldly view - the man who is involved in sexual immorality with someone else's wife - is cursed of God.  This is one of the ways that God brings His curse upon men.  He allows them to enter into such foolish sexual sin. 

Think about this for a moment.  Since this is true - then we should consider the sexual studs of the world - stupid.  We should look at the playboys that are held up for honor and respect - men who are worthy only of shame and disgrace.  We should see men like High Hefner not as models for us - but as morons.  This are not men of honor - but examples of horror!  The man who falls into sexual immorality is CURSED OF GOD!  Wow!  There is a turn of things for all of humanity.  The wise man does not follow the world in its estimation of who is to be counted as worthy and who is worthless.  These things are ultimately decided by God - Who has given us His estimation of things in His Word.  If therefore the Word tells us those whom the world calls blessed are cursed - know that they are cursed indeed.  Therefore the best thing we can do is reject the worldly ideas of manhood and a life worth living, and give ourselves to how our God views this world.